tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post8783932195517881689..comments2024-03-27T18:44:04.274-07:00Comments on Up from the ashes: The Fourth ParadoxQuinnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05166302055865113078noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post-44546416596863023032010-03-05T16:19:37.116-08:002010-03-05T16:19:37.116-08:00You can't rely on others for happiness. You mu...You can't rely on others for happiness. You must create your own.Adminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13122377424009824008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post-55076830283831828432010-03-05T09:42:44.747-08:002010-03-05T09:42:44.747-08:00Cait-- I won't tell any one don't worryCait-- I won't tell any one don't worryQuinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05166302055865113078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post-13256180908556275432010-03-05T07:57:12.283-08:002010-03-05T07:57:12.283-08:00Quinn-- you are probably right about this. But on...Quinn-- you are probably right about this. But only just this once, ok?Caitnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post-34019398896656259352010-03-04T10:43:40.529-08:002010-03-04T10:43:40.529-08:00cait- I think there is a place for empathy and a p...cait- I think there is a place for empathy and a place for sympathy. I do not belive the sympathy is empty. Sympathy is feeling for some one empathy is felling with some one. I think it is possible to understand how someone is felling without feeling it our selves. We may have felt that way in the past and can connect to that feeling but this is still sympathy not empathy. When we empathise we have a new emotion stimulated in ourselves because the emotion of the otherpersone is so close to us, whether by relationship or shared circumstances. The perseptionthat sympathy is empty comes from the terms overuse and degradation by society. What creates emptiness is the insincerity of most people when they profess sympathy.Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05166302055865113078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post-19935088934443541442010-03-04T08:23:59.322-08:002010-03-04T08:23:59.322-08:00Emotional boundaries are needed in order to separa...Emotional boundaries are needed in order to separate my feelings and needs from somebody elses. It took me a long time to learn not to feel bad because my children feel bad.Tess The Bold Lifehttp://theboldlife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4914171004360811638.post-77096501107517118132010-03-04T08:02:18.058-08:002010-03-04T08:02:18.058-08:00While I agree that one must be responsible for the...While I agree that one must be responsible for their own emotional states, I really strongly disagree with the motion that sympathy is better than empathy. Sympathy is an empty sentiment and when you empathize you seek to understand and connect. Good social interactions just don't happen through sympathizing.<br /><br />I think it's more important to learn to recognize how interactions with others might be affecting you mood and learn to cope and effect your own mood through cognitive and behavioral strategies. We can't be putting fence up to protect our selves.Caitnoreply@blogger.com