Through not Around

Part of success is being prepared, being ready to make changes and being ready to move when the opportunity presents itself. We have to also be willing to recognize what is a good opportunity and what is a false dream that will sidetrack us, destroy confidence and continue a cycle of disappointment.

We do this by knowing with clarity and certainty what it is we want. Wanting pain to end is broad and there are a number of solutions that may achieve that goal, but if a solution does not lead us to a place that we like we will just find new pain. If an opportunity presents itself and looks good just because it is a way out of the current pain we still must weigh it against future pain.

This is not to say that we should not act but, rather that we should act with caution to make decisions that bring us closer to where we really want to be rather then away from what hurts. This is one key to living: move towards what you want, not away from what you do not want. Some times what we need and want to be truly happy comes by going through the fire. When we circle the fire to reach where we're going we may find that what we are looking for has moved and we are left singed and with nothing.