Do what you want with wisdom

We spend a lot of time talking about creating the life we want, about setting goals to accomplish the things we want to do, and in general having things our way. Fulfilling all these desires does make us feel good but we need to temper our wants with wisdom. Let me share an example with you:

I have been sick for the last few days, nothing relay bad just a bit of a cold and sore throat, this morning a friend of mine asked if i would like to join him for a walk. We used to go walking often but since school started for him there has not been enough time. What I should have done is stayed home but I wanted to spend time with my friend so I bundled my sick self up and went walking. Now so far there have been no negative repercutions but I am wrighting this emediantly after returning home.

When we give in to our desires without weighing them against our values and wisdom we run the risk of falling in to hedonism and debauchery. Just because we want something does not make it right, and all things that feel good are not healthy for us. When we give in to desieres and temptations that we know do not benefit us in the long term we start to do things that make us happy. But this is not real happiness, is does not last after the stimulus leaves us, and it leaves us feeling hallow.

Real happiness comes from ourselves, it flows out of us as we accomplish the things in life we truly want, and live in accordance with our values, passions and dreams. So take the time to look at each and every desier you intened to gratify, look to see if it will move you to lasting happiness and if it does do it.

An Apology and a Replacement

I hope that everyone had a good holiday week and now is ready to get back to the real world. I feel that I need to apologise to my readers for Fridays post. I felt the righting was substandared and the content was poor. I am going to chalk it up to sleep deprivation and the Holiday distraction. So if you will all let me have a do over please consider the post below a Replacement for fridays.

The Friends of personal growth part 5 Confidence

We have spent a good bit of time talking about things to avoid when trying to make changes in our lives, procrastination, distractions, and doubts just to name a few. Lets call these the enemies of personal development. With the holiday season directly on top of us now I thought it would be nice to shift from talking about personal growths enemies and start talking about its friends. We have met and chatted with Honesty, Dedication and The Plan and, Action. Now the final guest has arrived, Confidence, lets go take its coat and see what it has to say.

While Personal Growths other friends help to keep things going and get things started in the first place Confidence is there to clear the road blocks before they are even reached. When Confdence is around all the hard work looks easy or at least not insurmountable. Unfortunetly Confidence usualy shows up late to the the party but there are afew things we can do to get it there on time.

We have already covered how small victories can be used to build confidence. While this technique is one of the best it can be a bit slow and some times our confidence needs a quick fix. The problem with the quick fix is it usually does not last, however if the task at hand is accomplished then it can be the foundation for true confidence.

Accomplishment Inventory: When you need Confidence the best of the quick fixes is to look to your past and make a list of things you have done that were difficult. Look at the list and say to yourself "If I can do these things I can do what needs to be done now." I keep mine on the back of a business card in my wallet so if I need a quick reminder of how unstoppable I am it is right there.

Set the Mood: A lot of things can be done to make us feel confidence, the clothes we wear, the music we listen to, these things set our mood. Whether it is throwing on a favorite outfit or listing to a song that leaves us feeling like we can take on the world our mood, and the things that effect it, can give us confidence.

Knowledge: When we need confidence to past a test or confront some one about a problem having a strong understanding of the subject builds confidence.

Posture: people who are not confident or depressed tend to keep there eyes pointed downwards. By squaring your shoulders keeping your head up and walk like you know were you are going you make others think you have confidence and you create the feeling of confidence in your self. It is better to act how you want to feel rather then how you do feel, we create our own moods.

These are just a handful of tips and tricks for faking confidence when we need it I am sure there are some I missed If you have some to share with me let me know in the coments beloow. and have a great day.

What I have been staring at this week

With the holiday season upon us I have not had much time to be staring at the internet this weeks however I have found a few agens to share with you.

The 99% ran an interview with MK Guth on art and the creative proses that has a lot of information that can also be applied to personal growth.

Here is a nice sotry and reminder of what is realy inportant from The Naked Soul