There are some basics I have found for creating change in my life. Here is the process refined.
Know: We first have to know ourselves and know our situation. If we do not know ourselves, honestly know ourselves, we will not know what needs to be changed.
Accept: Accept our flaws. If we are willing to look away from the truths we know about ourselves then we keep making the same mistakes. Acceptance does not mean we are content to continue to live with our faults, just that we acknowledge their existence.
Plan: Next we have to figure out how to change the problems we have found, focus on one at a time and create a plan on how to change that behavior.
Act: A plan is worth nothing without action. If we do not act we are no better then if we never started.