Thursday, December 3, 2009

Why we want to change

What is it that motivates us to want to be different from what we are today? This is a question that has been running around in my head like a five year old at a birthday party for several days now. Despite all this thinking I still don't have a good answer. I know that in my life I have needed to change for a while and at the urging of others have tried to change and grow but until recently it was not motivated from inside and so it never stuck.

With out the strong personnel desire to become a better person our efforts will not succeed. That is to say if we do not want to change we won't. So how do we create the desire to change? Is it watching something or someone slip through our fingers as a result of our stubbornness? Is it the inability to help those around us who need it? Is it realizing that we could be so much more if we just tried harder?

I think all of these elements play a role and there are probably as many reasons as there are people. However at the same time it all boils down to that moment of realization that we are not perfect; that our identity and capabilities are always a work in progress. I also believe that most of us who struggle for personnel growth realize at some point that we change every day even if we are not trying to. With that realization comes the understanding that we need to control that change or become someone we do not want to be.

Personnel change is just that personnel, without wanting it for ourselves we will not change. Our friends and family telling us how good we are and all the great things we could do will not motivate us to become the person they see in us. It is one when we see our own potential and take responsibility for realizing it that we will actually have the power to change.

What are your motivations for personnel growth? Let us know in the comments and have a great day.


Pseudonymous said...

I really believe that most people have an internal desire to achieve change, to accomplish things. I think maybe this comes from the brain, which seems to be programmed to rewrite itself constantly.

But that doesn't mean change isn't hard -- it is! But who has lived a stagnant, unchanging life, who hasn't experienced discontent, and dissonance? Change *is* life, but we're taught to fear it. Maybe some of it is culture. We are taught that if we need to change, that means we were wrong in the first place, which is bad, and makes us bad?

I don't know for sure, but I know that change to me is the essence of life. I love the idea of having different "practices," that I work towards keeping, and improving in. If I am exerting myself to have a dynamic life, then it is a good life.

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