Thursday, May 6, 2010

Spring cleaning of the heart

It is that time of year again, the skies are staying blue, the sun is shining and it just feels like a good time to be happy. We are airing out the house and chasing the dust bunnies from under the bed but there is some were else we need to look. We need to give ourselves an emotional spring cleaning as well. We accumulate dust bunnies of regret and stuffy rooms of unforgiving hurt all throughout the year. Spring is a great time to let that go.

There are those things in our lives we can change and those that we cannot. The interesting thing about what we cannot change is that it all resides in one place, the past. We can change things now and we can plan to change things in the future but the past is set in stone. If we cannot change it why do we insist on worrying about what has happened. Sure there are things from the past that can come back and bite us in the ass but that is not what we are talking about here.

We have all done things we are not proud of and been hurt by those we hold dear to us. These events are over and done with, the damage is done, and the pain is felt. We should let it go. Instead we hold on to the hurt like a serial killers grim collection of trophies. We can pull the hurt out again and torturer ourselves with it. We say "Why did I do that? If only I had not done this." But we did, we suffered and now we must let go.

Open up that trophy cabinet of pain this spring. Forgive those who need forgiving, this includes your self. Then forget about the hurt, fill the trophy cabinet with thoughts and memories of happiness and successes.